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Counselling and therapy services

I provide counselling and therapy for individuals and couples, both short and longer term. I work both face to face, serving Brighton and Hove and surrounding areas, and also provide counselling UK-wide by telephone and video-conferencing.

Browse below to find out more about the counselling and therapy I provide, and about me and my approach. The icons will take you straight to specific sections. A link to contact me is at the foot of this page.

Individual therapy

Couple counselling

About me

Individual counselling and therapy

We all have times when life may feel too much, or when we feel stuck and can’t see a way forward. At times like these it can help to talk to someone outside your situation, who can listen without judgement and help you gain a sense of perspective and direction once more.

Therapy can provide a space where you can explore the issues and concerns that are troubling you and begin to regain a sense of balance and direction. This is what I’ve spent the best part of my professional life helping people to achieve.

I provide therapy both face to face and by telephone and Skype throughout the UK. Therapy by telephone and Skype is not a poor alternative to seeing someone face to face – evaluation shows that it can be equally helpful. It can be a very effective and convenient way of getting the help you need.

For details of my fees please see the About me and how I work section at the foot of this page.

Common questions

What kind of issues can you help with?
I work with a wide range of common problems including anxiety, bereavement and loss, depression, general counselling, life coaching, personal development, relationships, self-esteem, stress, work related issues and many others. If you’re struggling with an issue that’s not listed here please don’t let that stop you getting in touch – there aren’t many issues that I haven’t worked with in my time.

I have a particular interest in working with people who might describe themselves as introverted. The needs of introverted children often go unrecognised, which can lead to life feeling more of a struggle that it has to be. This is an area I’ve taken both a personal and professional interest in over the past decade, so if this describes you, I may be able to help.

What's your counselling approach?
The model of therapy I use is known as integrative and brings together a range of approaches in a coherent framework. The integrative approach recognises that there is no ‘one size fits all’ in therapy, and that there are great benefits to clients when therapists are able to draw on a range of therapeutic approaches.

Every client is unique, and I aim to create a way of working with you that is equally unique and effective for you. The question is not “does this type of therapy work?” but “is this approach working for you right now?”

The approaches that I commonly draw on include person-centred, transactional analysis, solution-focused, cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) and mindfulness based approaches. If these labels don’t mean much to you, you can find further detail on the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) website here

Is therapy effective?
Research over several decades has consistently shown that therapy works. What it shows is that the average therapy client is psychologically better off than 80% of people who don’t receive therapy.

Contrary to what you may have heard there is no evidence that any one type of therapy is better than another for commonly experienced problems – it’s factors like the quality of the therapy relationship and the effectiveness of the therapist that make a much bigger difference.

In the short video below Bruce Wampold, one of the world’s foremost researchers into what works in therapy, talks about what really makes therapy effective. (3:43 mins).

I’m not sure whether I need counselling or coaching
Making a simple distinction between counselling and coaching can be unhelpful. I see each as sitting on a continuum with counselling and coaching as the anchor points at each end. What happens in any work we might do together depends on what you’re hoping to get out of the process and what we both bring to it.

Counselling tends to be more focused on getting a better sense of psychological balance or freedom from distress, and that’s likely to involve clearly identifying what is at the heart of the difficulty. Coaching tends to be more developmental in nature, building on existing strengths, and driven by a desire to further your potential. In practice, however, counselling often has a developmental component which can be appropriate. Similarly, coaching can have a therapeutic component and can be all the more more powerful for doing so.

So don’t worry if you don’t feel completely sure of what you need. I’m here to help you tease out those issues so that you have a clearer sense of what our work together might involve.

What happens when I contact you?
You can contact me by phone, by email, or through the form on the Contact page. I’ll suggest that we have an initial discussion to talk about what’s brought you in touch and what you’re looking for. This is a chance for me to learn about your concerns and how I might be able to help, and for you to find out about me and decide whether you would feel comfortable working with me. There’s no charge for this.

There’s no obligation or pressure and you don’t have to decide at this stage – it’s better to take time and make the right choice. If we agree to work together then we can arrange a further session or sessions. These are an hour in length. We’ll work together for as long as you feel you need and are getting a clear benefit than we can both measure.

Individual therapy

Couple counselling

About me

Couple and relationship counselling

Every relationship faces its challenges at some point. Each person in a relationship is different, and while there may be much that you have in common, you may also have very different experiences, beliefs, needs, and world views. At some point those differences may begin to place a strain on your relationship. The way that couples manage those challenges will determine the future health of their relationship. Making longer term relationships work well requires both commitment, effort and a set of skills.

Sadly, few of us were ever taught the skills needed at an early enough stage to do things like successfully manage conflict, work with difference, and achieve compromise. My aim will be to help you, as a couple, to find more helpful ways of interacting and problem solving. In this way you can hopefully begin to stop negative or destructive patterns of relating, and better manage or solve the differences between you that are problematic.

For details of my fees, please see the About me and how I work section at the foot of this page.

 

Common questions

Will counselling save my relationship?
It would be irresponsible to suggest that counselling will save your relationship, but if you are both still committed to each other and to working at making your relationship better, there’s every chance that it will help. The sooner you seek help the better, before the difficulties between you have caused long term damage that’s harder to repair.

I won’t pretend that couple counselling is always easy – at times it can feel difficult and painful. Part of that is because it can involve telling your partner how you truly feel, whether that’s angry, taken for granted, controlled or any number of other painful feelings. You may also be fearful of hurting your partner with the truth. But the real truth is that both of you are likely to be hurting badly. Can telling the truth and trying to find a better way of being with each other be more painful than how things may be right now?

Counselling doesn’t always save relationships. Sometimes difficulties have gone on too long or there’s too much damage been caused. Maybe one of you has fallen out of love with the other, had an affair or decided to leave already. Maybe you decide you now want different things. If that’s the case then counselling can help save a great deal of heartache in the process of parting your ways, so that you can go your own ways as amicably and respectfully as you are both able.

What's your role and will you take sides ?
My role is to help you to achieve positive changes in your relationship by helping you to communicate more effectively with each other, talk openly and honestly, and also to listen to each other. When things start to go wrong communication is often the first casualty. It’s easy to slip into a defensive position which makes it difficult to hear other peoples’ points of view. Working on your communication is something that we may need to practice in sessions, and that you work on between them.

I’ll work with you on your communication if necessary, and also help you to explore and resolve, if you can, the points of difference that have brought you to counselling. While I may draw your attention to unhelpful patterns in how you communicate with each other, I won’t take sides or offer judgements about what’s right for you to do.

What happens after one of us makes contact?
When you make contact I’ll suggest a meeting with the two of you. The purpose of this is to establish in more detail what has brought you in touch at this point, what you’re hoping to achieve, and how far I can be of help. It’s also a chance for you to get a sense of me and how you would both feel about working with me after that first session. This is a shorter session than my standard hour and I don’t make a charge for this.

If we agree to work together we’ll agree the key areas of focus for our work that include a clear sense of what you both hope to achieve through the process of working together

How do I persuade my partner to come?
It’s not uncommon for one partner to be either somewhat reluctant about couple counselling, or even hostile to the idea. Getting you partner to buy into the idea all depends on how willing they are and how you approach them.

What isn’t helpful is to suggest that your partner is the problem which you want counselling to fix. What will help is to make it clear that this is a problem that you see both of you sharing. It’s the difference between saying something like  “I want us to go to counselling so someone else can tell you how unreasonable you are.” and “We’ve been arguing a lot recently and it’s painful for both of us. I think we need some help with our relatioinship skills to get past this – what do you think?”

If your partner simply refuses to consider counselling then it may not bode well for the future of your relationship. If that’s the case then you may want to consider coming for counselling on your own to talk about your relationship.

What are your fees?
My fees for couple counselling are £50 per session. Sessions are sixty minutes unless we negotiate otherwise. I may have capacity to offer concessions in limited cases so if costs are an issue please feel free to ask.

Individual therapy

Couple counselling

About me

About me and how I work

I’ve been a counsellor and coach for more than 25 years, as well as a therapy service manager, and a trainer and consultant in therapy outcome evaluation. I’m also a workplace mediator. I am an Accredited Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and am part of the BACP Register of Counsellors and Psychotherapists. The register is accredited by the Professional Standards Authority for Health and Social Care, an independent body accountable to Government.

I’m as passionate now, about the power of therapy and coaching to transform lives, as I was when I started. I’m also fully committed to my own personal and professional development, as I will be to your development, if you choose to work with me.

You can find out more about me in the About me section of this site

Common questions

What are your fees?
Our initial discussion is free of charge. If we agree to work together after that my session fees (per 60 minute session) are as follows:

Individual counselling: £40

Couple counselling: £50

At times I am also able to offer concessionary rates, so if cost is an issue for you please let me know. I can accept payment by cash or cheque, as well as bank transfer and Pay Pal.

Contact me now to find out more or book a session