Browse below to find out more about the counselling and therapy I provide, and about me and my approach. The icons will take you straight to specific sections. A link to contact me is at the foot of this page.
If you are currently seeking therapy
I’ve worked with clients by phone and video for many years and will continue to offer this through the current public health crisis. Working in this way can be as effective as working face to face work. If you’re in doubt you may care to read my recent blog But it is therapy? on this topic.
Therapy can provide a space where you can explore the issues and concerns that are troubling you and begin to regain a sense of balance and direction. This is what I’ve spent the best part of my professional life helping people to achieve.
I provide therapy both face to face and by telephone and Skype throughout the UK. Therapy by telephone and Skype is not a poor alternative to seeing someone face to face – evaluation shows that it can be equally helpful. It can be a very effective and convenient way of getting the help you need.
For details of my fees please see the About me and how I work section at the foot of this page.
What kind of issues can you help with?
I have a particular interest in working with people who might describe themselves as introverted. The needs of introverted children often go unrecognised, which can lead to life feeling more of a struggle that it has to be. This is an area I’ve taken both a personal and professional interest in over the past decade, so if this describes you, I may be able to help.
What's your counselling approach?
Every client is unique, and I aim to create a way of working with you that is equally unique and effective for you. The question is not “does this type of therapy work?” but “is this approach working for you right now?”
The approaches that I commonly draw on include person-centred, transactional analysis, solution-focused, cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) and mindfulness based approaches. If these labels don’t mean much to you, you can find further detail on the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) website here
Is therapy effective?
Contrary to what you may have heard there is no evidence that any one type of therapy is better than another for commonly experienced problems – it’s factors like the quality of the therapy relationship and the effectiveness of the therapist that make a much bigger difference.
In the short video below Bruce Wampold, one of the world’s foremost researchers into what works in therapy, talks about what really makes therapy effective. (3:43 mins).
I’m not sure whether I need counselling or coaching
Counselling tends to be more focused on getting a better sense of psychological balance or freedom from distress, and that’s likely to involve clearly identifying what is at the heart of the difficulty. Coaching tends to be more developmental in nature, building on existing strengths, and driven by a desire to further your potential. In practice, however, counselling often has a developmental component which can be appropriate. Similarly, coaching can have a therapeutic component and can be all the more more powerful for doing so.
So don’t worry if you don’t feel completely sure of what you need. I’m here to help you tease out those issues so that you have a clearer sense of what our work together might involve.
What happens when I contact you?
There’s no obligation or pressure and you don’t have to decide at this stage – it’s better to take time and make the right choice. If we agree to work together then we can arrange a further session or sessions. These are an hour in length. We’ll work together for as long as you feel you need and are getting a clear benefit than we can both measure.
Couple and relationship counselling
Sadly, few of us were ever taught the skills needed at an early enough stage to do things like successfully manage conflict, work with difference, and achieve compromise. My aim will be to help you, as a couple, to find more helpful ways of interacting and problem solving. In this way you can hopefully begin to stop negative or destructive patterns of relating, and better manage or solve the differences between you that are problematic.
For details of my fees, please see the About me and how I work section at the foot of this page.
Will counselling save my relationship?
I won’t pretend that couple counselling is always easy – at times it can feel difficult and painful. Part of that is because it can involve telling your partner how you truly feel, whether that’s angry, taken for granted, controlled or any number of other painful feelings. You may also be fearful of hurting your partner with the truth. But the real truth is that both of you are likely to be hurting badly. Can telling the truth and trying to find a better way of being with each other be more painful than how things may be right now?
Counselling doesn’t always save relationships. Sometimes difficulties have gone on too long or there’s too much damage been caused. Maybe one of you has fallen out of love with the other, had an affair or decided to leave already. Maybe you decide you now want different things. If that’s the case then counselling can help save a great deal of heartache in the process of parting your ways, so that you can go your own ways as amicably and respectfully as you are both able.
What's your role and will you take sides ?
I’ll work with you on your communication if necessary, and also help you to explore and resolve, if you can, the points of difference that have brought you to counselling. While I may draw your attention to unhelpful patterns in how you communicate with each other, I won’t take sides or offer judgements about what’s right for you to do.
What happens after one of us makes contact?
If we agree to work together we’ll agree the key areas of focus for our work that include a clear sense of what you both hope to achieve through the process of working together
How do I persuade my partner to come?
It’s not uncommon for one partner to be either somewhat hesitant about couple counselling, or even hostile to the idea. Getting you partner to buy into the idea at all depends on how willing they are and how you approach them.
What isn’t helpful is to suggest that your partner is the problem which you want counselling to fix. What will help is to make it clear that this is a problem that you see both of you sharing. It’s the difference between saying something like “I want us to go to counselling so someone else can see how unreasonable you are” and “We’ve been arguing a lot recently and it’s painful for both of us. I think we need some help with our relationship skills to get past this – what do you think?”
If your partner simply refuses to consider counselling then it may not bode well for the future of your relationship. If that’s the case then you may want to consider coming for counselling on your own to talk about your relationship.
What are your fees?
My fees for couple counselling are £60 per session. Sessions are sixty minutes unless we negotiate otherwise. I may have capacity to offer concessions in limited cases so if costs are an issue please feel free to ask.
About me and how I work
I’m as passionate now, about the power of therapy and coaching to transform lives, as I was when I started. I’m also fully committed to my own personal and professional development, as I will be to your development, if you choose to work with me.
You can find out more about me in the About me section of this site
What are your fees?
Our initial discussion is free of charge. If we agree to work together after that my session fees (per 60 minute session) are as follows:
Individual counselling: £50
Couple counselling: £60
At times I am also able to offer concessionary rates, so if cost is an issue for you please let me know. I can accept payment by cash or cheque, as well as bank transfer and Pay Pal.